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Saturday, November 22, 2003

Eatin' Ain't Cheatin'

I was talking to my friend Matt (AKA "Playboy") and we were discussing fidelity in relationships, and I was telling him how distressing I thought it was that people are unfaithful to their partners all the time.
And then he said, "Well it depends on what you think of as cheatin'. Eatin' ain't cheatin'."
So I naturally I asked him to explain.
He went on to tell me that, in his mind anyway, oral sex "doesn't count".
In Playboy's world, handjobs, blowjobs, and heavy petting aren't really cheating.
So I took an informal poll and asked some friends of mine what they thought was "cheating"

Brett:
"Any kind of sexual conduct outside the relationship is cheating. Kissing and hugging someone other than your partner are unfaithful acts. You shouldn't even be masturbating or looking at porn--that's cheating too."

Chris:
"Cybersex isn't cheating technically, but if your in a relationship you shouldn't be carrying on like that with someone else."

Mike:
"It's only cheating if your partner catches you."

Derek:
"Just attempting to get with someone else is wrong, even if it doesn't go anywhere. The cheating happens in the attempt, not the act."

Here's my view on it:
Cheating is breaking the rules that were defined by both partners at some point during the relationship. If it's agreed that both partners can have sex with other people and one of them does, that's not cheating. If it's agreed that neither partner masturbate or look a porn and one of them catches the other in the bathroom wankin' to FreshMen, he broke the rules. He cheated.

This is how I do it. I turn it around and think:
Would I get upset /angry/ hurt if I found out that G. (insert act here) with someone else?
If the answer is "yes", then that act (whatever it is) is something I shouldn't even think about doing with anyone else but G..

Everyone's got their own opinions about this, though.